Reality on a Stick

Over the course of the past year, I’ve been researching the inter-connectedness of communities, confidence, trust, hope, happiness and social intelligence. This is all in preparation for an upcoming project I plan to launch with a few trusted collaborators later this year.   There are many, many videos and articles to share with you all, but I think the following excerpt sums it up quite nicely.
…excerpt from Time magazine Jan 2005 (bottom right)  http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/Default.aspx#

WHAT MAKES US HAPPY

So, what has science learned about what makes the human heart sing? More than one might imagine ? along with some surprising things about what doesn’t ring our inner chimes. Take wealth, for instance, and all the delightful things that money can buy. Research by Diener, among others, has shown that once your basic needs are met, additional income does little to raise your sense of satisfaction with life (see story on page A32). A good education? Sorry, Mom and Dad, neither education nor, for that matter, a high IQ paves the road to happiness. Youth? No, again. In fact, older people are more consistently satisfied with their lives than the young. And they’re less prone to dark moods: a recent survey by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that people ages 20 to 24 are sad for an average of 3.4 days a month, as opposed to just 2.3 days for people ages 65 to 74. Marriage? A complicated picture: married people are generally happier than singles, but that may be because they were happier to begin with (see page A37). Sunny days? Nope, although a 1998 study showed that Midwesterners think folks living in balmy California are happier and that Californians incorrectly believe this about themselves too.

On the positive side, religious faith seems to genuinely lift the spirit, though it’s tough to tell whether it’s the God part or the community aspect that does the heavy lifting. Friends? A giant yes. A 2002 study conducted at the University of Illinois by Diener and Seligman found that the most salient characteristics shared by the 10% of students with the highest levels of happiness and the fewest signs of depression were their strong ties to friends and family and commitment to spending time with them. “Word needs to be spread,” concludes Diener. “It is important to work on social skills, close interpersonal ties and social support in order to be happy.”

The real questions to answer, then, are:

1. Are we indeed in control of our own happiness?

2. To what extent can/should social intelligence be nurtured as a means to achieving lasting relationships and, in turn, sustainable support networks?

Your thoughts appreciated:-)