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		<title>By: realityonastick</title>
		<link>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-331</link>
		<dc:creator>realityonastick</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Sep 2007 16:07:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hey Tony,

Thanks for the comments, and for the words of caution. You're right, we do all need to keep in mind that every word we post in cyberspace is publicly accessible forever. Data storage is getting cheaper at a phenomenal rate, so it's safe to say that every page on the web will be cached somewhere or other, and there won't be any way to know who has access to the cached files.

As for the concern about hiding dirty laundry...
I've been thinking about this a lot over the past 6  months and I've decided that I'm going to put most of it out there. The political involvement that my future may have in store would be more centered around policy reform, creative funding solutions, etc. In any case, I don't think I'd like being the figure-head for any large group of people. Those are the people who suffer the worst of the mudslinging.

Thanks, as always, for stopping by:-)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hey Tony,</p>
<p>Thanks for the comments, and for the words of caution. You&#8217;re right, we do all need to keep in mind that every word we post in cyberspace is publicly accessible forever. Data storage is getting cheaper at a phenomenal rate, so it&#8217;s safe to say that every page on the web will be cached somewhere or other, and there won&#8217;t be any way to know who has access to the cached files.</p>
<p>As for the concern about hiding dirty laundry&#8230;<br />
I&#8217;ve been thinking about this a lot over the past 6  months and I&#8217;ve decided that I&#8217;m going to put most of it out there. The political involvement that my future may have in store would be more centered around policy reform, creative funding solutions, etc. In any case, I don&#8217;t think I&#8217;d like being the figure-head for any large group of people. Those are the people who suffer the worst of the mudslinging.</p>
<p>Thanks, as always, for stopping by:-)</p>
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		<title>By: Tony</title>
		<link>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-330</link>
		<dc:creator>Tony</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Sep 2007 15:22:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-330</guid>
		<description>Yep, a politician would be a suitable job for you I reckon.

Mind you, you'd better be careful what you write here and elsewhere - any flippant comment (or wayward tap of the foot) can be whipped into a media storm with a word in the right ear.

And blogs, myspaces, facebooks, well, people couldn't make it much easier to track down their own dirty laundry with people establishing easily-traceable networks and putting down spontaneous thoughts on permanent record.

Just a small note of caution to go with the big banner of support.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yep, a politician would be a suitable job for you I reckon.</p>
<p>Mind you, you&#8217;d better be careful what you write here and elsewhere - any flippant comment (or wayward tap of the foot) can be whipped into a media storm with a word in the right ear.</p>
<p>And blogs, myspaces, facebooks, well, people couldn&#8217;t make it much easier to track down their own dirty laundry with people establishing easily-traceable networks and putting down spontaneous thoughts on permanent record.</p>
<p>Just a small note of caution to go with the big banner of support.</p>
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		<title>By: realityonastick</title>
		<link>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-332</link>
		<dc:creator>realityonastick</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Aug 2007 21:01:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-332</guid>
		<description>Thanks for all of the great feedback on my recent soul-searching. I'm feeling much better about things now, realizing that I've just been in a rut that started out as a combination between homesickness and having way too much on my plate. Over the past week, I've had some long chats with family and friends  and I've realized-- thanks to you all-- that I've just been putting way too much pressure on myself. Rome wasn't built in a day! and all that jazz. I am now focusing my efforts on steady discernible progress toward an ideal lifestyle for myself and my family. Ultimately, that includes expanding the school and committing both to a whole lot of Japan time as well as time back in the states. That just means that I need to get more serious about writing and blogging as a source of income. I welcome the new challenge, and you can be sure that I'll keep you all informed.

Oh yeah, and no more fighting over who loves me most. You all know me well enough to know that embarrasses the shit out of me! Besides, if we keep up all the sappy talk, we're going to scare off all the potential new readers;-)

Thanks again for all your comments, and a special welcome to my mom and dad who--I'm happy to say--have recently decided to joined the discussion:-)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks for all of the great feedback on my recent soul-searching. I&#8217;m feeling much better about things now, realizing that I&#8217;ve just been in a rut that started out as a combination between homesickness and having way too much on my plate. Over the past week, I&#8217;ve had some long chats with family and friends  and I&#8217;ve realized&#8211; thanks to you all&#8211; that I&#8217;ve just been putting way too much pressure on myself. Rome wasn&#8217;t built in a day! and all that jazz. I am now focusing my efforts on steady discernible progress toward an ideal lifestyle for myself and my family. Ultimately, that includes expanding the school and committing both to a whole lot of Japan time as well as time back in the states. That just means that I need to get more serious about writing and blogging as a source of income. I welcome the new challenge, and you can be sure that I&#8217;ll keep you all informed.</p>
<p>Oh yeah, and no more fighting over who loves me most. You all know me well enough to know that embarrasses the shit out of me! Besides, if we keep up all the sappy talk, we&#8217;re going to scare off all the potential new readers;-)</p>
<p>Thanks again for all your comments, and a special welcome to my mom and dad who&#8211;I&#8217;m happy to say&#8211;have recently decided to joined the discussion:-)</p>
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		<title>By: Aunt Deb</title>
		<link>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-333</link>
		<dc:creator>Aunt Deb</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Aug 2007 04:59:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-333</guid>
		<description>miss behaving,
although I am sure you all love Steve I can say
I probably Love him more as I have been in his life
since the day he was born!!
but if He so desires I am sure we can share custody
somehow!!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>miss behaving,<br />
although I am sure you all love Steve I can say<br />
I probably Love him more as I have been in his life<br />
since the day he was born!!<br />
but if He so desires I am sure we can share custody<br />
somehow!!!</p>
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		<title>By: shojinish</title>
		<link>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-335</link>
		<dc:creator>shojinish</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 27 Aug 2007 19:51:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-335</guid>
		<description>Hi Steve,
I know we already spoke about this blog but I've been reading your blogs without comment for too long.  They have been both entertaining and insightful.

Regarding this topic, I am sure you will make the right decision regardless of what it is.  Number 1, you must be true to yourself and what will bring you happiness.  There is only one person that can guarantee your happiness and that is you.  Your concern for the welfare of your parents and Motoko's parents while admirable and satisfying.  (I now regret putting the concept of obligation on you the way that I did when you were younger.)  But, we are not your responsibility.  It's nice that you are concerned, but we have lived our lives and have to take ownership finanically for the decisions we made during our lives.  You, on the otherhand are responsible for yourself, Motoko and your family.  I have never pushed wealth as a measure of success and I still don't believe that that should be a person's #1 goal.  (although, it doesn't hurt to be comfortable.)

Challenging yourself is always good to keep you motivated. "What doesn't kill me, makes me stronger."  (I love that one.  Nietzsche, right?)  But, challenges should inspire you not direct you.  At this point in your life, you can pick and choose your challenges.  I know I've always stressed appearances and other peoples perception of you, but you are beyond that now.  You are now truely the captain of your ship.  Don't be driven by: what you said you would do or think that you have to prove anything to anyone, (including yourself) because your life, and the world for that matter, is always changing-so your life and your goals have to change also.  But, be ready for opportunities when they present themselves.

I have spent only a couple of weeks in Japan but I can certainly understand your affinty for the country and culture.  I could live there myself, given the right circumstances.  But, (sigh) I am a an American first and foremost.  Despite all our faults; crime, decadence, lack of personal self discipline and general malaise, I still haven't given up on the USA.  So much for my soapbox.

If you continue to stay in Japan, of course we will miss you.  (I always told your mom that you leave a big hole in a person's life when you leave.)  But the world is shrinking, thanks to the internet and we will always be able to make contact when the spirit so moves us.  I think our family is very close "spiritually" and when we talk on the phone or online, I actually feel that you are there with me.

I hope you don't anguish much more over your dilemma.  You've always had a penchant for over analyzing a situation.  Remember, there are no wrong decisions.  Sometimes you just have to make another decision.

I love you.

Dad</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Steve,<br />
I know we already spoke about this blog but I&#8217;ve been reading your blogs without comment for too long.  They have been both entertaining and insightful.</p>
<p>Regarding this topic, I am sure you will make the right decision regardless of what it is.  Number 1, you must be true to yourself and what will bring you happiness.  There is only one person that can guarantee your happiness and that is you.  Your concern for the welfare of your parents and Motoko&#8217;s parents while admirable and satisfying.  (I now regret putting the concept of obligation on you the way that I did when you were younger.)  But, we are not your responsibility.  It&#8217;s nice that you are concerned, but we have lived our lives and have to take ownership finanically for the decisions we made during our lives.  You, on the otherhand are responsible for yourself, Motoko and your family.  I have never pushed wealth as a measure of success and I still don&#8217;t believe that that should be a person&#8217;s #1 goal.  (although, it doesn&#8217;t hurt to be comfortable.)</p>
<p>Challenging yourself is always good to keep you motivated. &#8220;What doesn&#8217;t kill me, makes me stronger.&#8221;  (I love that one.  Nietzsche, right?)  But, challenges should inspire you not direct you.  At this point in your life, you can pick and choose your challenges.  I know I&#8217;ve always stressed appearances and other peoples perception of you, but you are beyond that now.  You are now truely the captain of your ship.  Don&#8217;t be driven by: what you said you would do or think that you have to prove anything to anyone, (including yourself) because your life, and the world for that matter, is always changing-so your life and your goals have to change also.  But, be ready for opportunities when they present themselves.</p>
<p>I have spent only a couple of weeks in Japan but I can certainly understand your affinty for the country and culture.  I could live there myself, given the right circumstances.  But, (sigh) I am a an American first and foremost.  Despite all our faults; crime, decadence, lack of personal self discipline and general malaise, I still haven&#8217;t given up on the USA.  So much for my soapbox.</p>
<p>If you continue to stay in Japan, of course we will miss you.  (I always told your mom that you leave a big hole in a person&#8217;s life when you leave.)  But the world is shrinking, thanks to the internet and we will always be able to make contact when the spirit so moves us.  I think our family is very close &#8220;spiritually&#8221; and when we talk on the phone or online, I actually feel that you are there with me.</p>
<p>I hope you don&#8217;t anguish much more over your dilemma.  You&#8217;ve always had a penchant for over analyzing a situation.  Remember, there are no wrong decisions.  Sometimes you just have to make another decision.</p>
<p>I love you.</p>
<p>Dad</p>
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		<title>By: Miss Behaving</title>
		<link>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-328</link>
		<dc:creator>Miss Behaving</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 27 Aug 2007 06:09:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-328</guid>
		<description>But Aunt Deb...
We LOVE him too.
Maybe we can share custody ；）</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>But Aunt Deb&#8230;<br />
We LOVE him too.<br />
Maybe we can share custody ；）</p>
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		<title>By: Aunt Deb</title>
		<link>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-329</link>
		<dc:creator>Aunt Deb</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 26 Aug 2007 19:22:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-329</guid>
		<description>wow! this was a heartfelt blog and I want you to forgive me if I become a little bit selfish .
first and foremost you must do what you feel is right in your heart! no matter where it may be
I have seen you grow into a great young man who does accomplish all he sets out to do and your love
to take on challenges,( qualities that I am proud you show your cousins) ok the selfish part
I would love to have you near family so I can get
to know your children and family ( this coming from me losing my parents) family can drive you absolutely crazy but it is a comfort to know that
they are always there for you, I never  saw my self living so close to where I grew up and yet now I am glad that I do because if it was not for
your family, your Nina's family and the other aunts being near by I think Kiel and Kaitlyn would not have been able to grasp the whole family concept. anyway, our family is one of support not judges and what ever you decide we
honor and support you ( selfish again it would be nice to see you more than just at Christmas time)
but whatever time your visits allow I treasure them. another selfish act I would love to see your and Brian's children grow up together if that is possible.
bottom line  although it would please all of the family for your family to return to the states we know you have to do what you feel is right for your FAMILY!
please don't be upset by anything I have said
I know you will come to find the decision that is
best for you and yours
remember this: WE LOVE YOU

Aunt Deb</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>wow! this was a heartfelt blog and I want you to forgive me if I become a little bit selfish .<br />
first and foremost you must do what you feel is right in your heart! no matter where it may be<br />
I have seen you grow into a great young man who does accomplish all he sets out to do and your love<br />
to take on challenges,( qualities that I am proud you show your cousins) ok the selfish part<br />
I would love to have you near family so I can get<br />
to know your children and family ( this coming from me losing my parents) family can drive you absolutely crazy but it is a comfort to know that<br />
they are always there for you, I never  saw my self living so close to where I grew up and yet now I am glad that I do because if it was not for<br />
your family, your Nina&#8217;s family and the other aunts being near by I think Kiel and Kaitlyn would not have been able to grasp the whole family concept. anyway, our family is one of support not judges and what ever you decide we<br />
honor and support you ( selfish again it would be nice to see you more than just at Christmas time)<br />
but whatever time your visits allow I treasure them. another selfish act I would love to see your and Brian&#8217;s children grow up together if that is possible.<br />
bottom line  although it would please all of the family for your family to return to the states we know you have to do what you feel is right for your FAMILY!<br />
please don&#8217;t be upset by anything I have said<br />
I know you will come to find the decision that is<br />
best for you and yours<br />
remember this: WE LOVE YOU</p>
<p>Aunt Deb</p>
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		<title>By: rob</title>
		<link>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-336</link>
		<dc:creator>rob</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Aug 2007 23:33:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>now steve, i'm sure you know how hard this is for me.  you know how much i hate giving you any praise but i have to say dude you got nothing to worry about.  i've never met anyone more grounded, more adaptable, just plain more able than you.  i hate you for it, but goddamn i love you for it too.  hate because you make it all look so easy, love because your feckin brilliant melon head has helped me out of more problems, situations, binds and predicaments than i care to remember.  whenever i need help, whatever area it may be in, i know i can turn to you dude.
jesus, this is turning a bit slushy isn't it.  time to cut back on the old meds i think.
it's funny actually that you were recommended to go into politics.  my careers counsellor in secondary school recommended the same for me.  in my case though, i think it was more because i was a conniving little git who tried to schmooze his way through school and would accept any type of bribe.  almost made it too.
look, i'm not going to sit here and massage your ego and i know that's not what you're looking for here.  i actually read the whole thing, really didn't think i would.  dude, basically, you're a bit of a legend so as you would no doubt say to me, i dunno, something along the lines of realise your goals or somesuch.  i really am no good at this business.
also, the US?  no way dude.  move to ireland!  it only rains some of the time now.  and, bonus, you'll never have to sit through another game of baseball again.  our education systems rather good and guns still aren't in the schools.  yes steve, only potatoes are in the schools.
also also, Miss Behaving, there's etiquette for all this nonsense?  i was told to just show up and have at it, as it were.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>now steve, i&#8217;m sure you know how hard this is for me.  you know how much i hate giving you any praise but i have to say dude you got nothing to worry about.  i&#8217;ve never met anyone more grounded, more adaptable, just plain more able than you.  i hate you for it, but goddamn i love you for it too.  hate because you make it all look so easy, love because your feckin brilliant melon head has helped me out of more problems, situations, binds and predicaments than i care to remember.  whenever i need help, whatever area it may be in, i know i can turn to you dude.<br />
jesus, this is turning a bit slushy isn&#8217;t it.  time to cut back on the old meds i think.<br />
it&#8217;s funny actually that you were recommended to go into politics.  my careers counsellor in secondary school recommended the same for me.  in my case though, i think it was more because i was a conniving little git who tried to schmooze his way through school and would accept any type of bribe.  almost made it too.<br />
look, i&#8217;m not going to sit here and massage your ego and i know that&#8217;s not what you&#8217;re looking for here.  i actually read the whole thing, really didn&#8217;t think i would.  dude, basically, you&#8217;re a bit of a legend so as you would no doubt say to me, i dunno, something along the lines of realise your goals or somesuch.  i really am no good at this business.<br />
also, the US?  no way dude.  move to ireland!  it only rains some of the time now.  and, bonus, you&#8217;ll never have to sit through another game of baseball again.  our education systems rather good and guns still aren&#8217;t in the schools.  yes steve, only potatoes are in the schools.<br />
also also, Miss Behaving, there&#8217;s etiquette for all this nonsense?  i was told to just show up and have at it, as it were.</p>
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		<title>By: Miss Behaving</title>
		<link>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-334</link>
		<dc:creator>Miss Behaving</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Aug 2007 11:55:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://realityonastick.com/2007/08/24/pillar-of-the-community/#comment-334</guid>
		<description>I will respond having read from start to finish.
May I ask you to bear in mind I am on the dickey keyboard......

Your Dad is right, I think you should follow a political path and I have said that to you.

Quite honestly Steve you ae the kind of person who will excel in whatever you do, but deep down you have a socialist,  conscience and I don't think you will ever be truly happy unless you are following it.

You have the kind of skills that can't be learned,you have utterly unique talents and because of great parents, the confidence to pull it all off. YOU among all others are someone who can make and shake things.

There is no doubt you could go back to to the US and BE someone, someone whose name is on lists for people who give a shit how much people  make etc, but your heart is too big for it Steve.
You are in a position where you can affect how people view Engish education here how people view foreigners here and I don't sincerely think you an walk away from it.
Sorry if I am breaking all rules of bogging ettiquette here, but you talk in  earlier posts about your size. You are the BIGGEST man I know,  I am talking about the measure  of a man, the real measure You are it. You are destined for greatness, you just have to ask yourself how you measure greatness????</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I will respond having read from start to finish.<br />
May I ask you to bear in mind I am on the dickey keyboard&#8230;&#8230;</p>
<p>Your Dad is right, I think you should follow a political path and I have said that to you.</p>
<p>Quite honestly Steve you ae the kind of person who will excel in whatever you do, but deep down you have a socialist,  conscience and I don&#8217;t think you will ever be truly happy unless you are following it.</p>
<p>You have the kind of skills that can&#8217;t be learned,you have utterly unique talents and because of great parents, the confidence to pull it all off. YOU among all others are someone who can make and shake things.</p>
<p>There is no doubt you could go back to to the US and BE someone, someone whose name is on lists for people who give a shit how much people  make etc, but your heart is too big for it Steve.<br />
You are in a position where you can affect how people view Engish education here how people view foreigners here and I don&#8217;t sincerely think you an walk away from it.<br />
Sorry if I am breaking all rules of bogging ettiquette here, but you talk in  earlier posts about your size. You are the BIGGEST man I know,  I am talking about the measure  of a man, the real measure You are it. You are destined for greatness, you just have to ask yourself how you measure greatness????</p>
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