Thanks for your warm comments and for sharing your situation with us. It sounds like you have been able to keep a positive mindset despite the trials that the morning sickness has brought your way. Now that we this morning sickness is so far in the past, I have to say that my wife seems to have forgotten how bad it was. Rereading this post, I think I had forgotten how helpless I was feeling. That’s how magical the first year with a baby is.

Just last night my wife turned to me and said, ‘Do you remember when I said to you that I thought I’d be jealous and sad if it ever became clear that you loved the baby more than me? Well, now I am sure I’d be angry if you didn’t!” She definitely keeps me on my toes, but we are still completely on the same page. I see a lot of the same in your future, Serena:-)

Here is a link to vids of us with Leo, who is now 14 months and walking and talking. The videos only go up to about 10 months, though, cause I’ve been too busy to upload new ones!

Hope to see you around here again. Please keep us posted on how you are feeling.

With warm wishes,
Steve

i stumbled across this blog by looking for answers to help relieve my own “morning” sickness.
I am 16 weeks along…first baby at age 39.
I have dry heaved and thrown up at least once every single day for the last 2&1/2 months. I must admit that i have resorted to drugs for help…though they do not seem to help much. which leads me to believe i will likely stop taking them.
i pray every morning to wake up feeling good. i don’t like feeling miserable at a time when i should be so very happy….and don’t get me wrong..i know how blessed i am.
i just want to be able to function and enjoy this process….

my hubby is feeling very much like you are….and i am again very blessed to have married such an understanding man. as much as he cannot truly “get it”….he so wants to be able to make all the misery go away….
he is thrilled to become a dad. but tries to tone down his happiness in the wake of my nausea….and i hate that he feels like he has to do that…..

just keep supporting motoko….she sounds like she is going to make an amazing mom. she already is.

(okay…side note…i just noticed the dates of the posts…by now you have yourself a son or daughter…..congratulations…and i hope that the memory of all the sickness is all but forgotten…)….

you sound also…like a real man. and as they say..any fool can make a baby…but it takes a man to raise a child….

all the best.

serena

Mom: Thanks for all the advice and reassurance. It makes it a whole lot easier to plan knowing that we both have amazing parents behind us.

Miss Behaving: As I wrote before, I get a bit embarrassed after writing sappy stuff online, but I’m glad that it resonates with so many of you. After hearing of so many difficult marriages, I came in expecting it to get worse as time went on. It’s still early, but it’s only gotten better and better so far. We’re lucky to have excellent friends who share their intimate details with us, and help us to keep focusing on what’s most important. You have been particularly helpful in that respect, so thank you.

Aunt Deb: Thanks for the hugs and kind words. And thanks for reminding us that a healthy baby will make all of this turn into a fuzzy and distant memory.

Rob: Motoko thanks you for your emapthy. One thing I’ve learned: Quite often, wives/women/human beings just need their strife to be recognized. Letting them know that their feelings are justified does wonders.

Jason: Yes, we’re trying to stay cognizant of the fact that these, too, are the memories that we’ll hold fondly to later in life. Learning to enjoy the good times and the bad, and remain positive and appreciative, well that’s the stuff that grown-ups are made of.

Used to think I definitely wanted a boy, but now I just don’t care at all. I just pray that both Motoko and the baby will be healthy when it’s all finished.

Welcome to the NEW world, Steven.

Must be a boy…

the end result is worth what she is going through and what you are going through as well a health
child
give her a hug and one for yourself
love from central valley, ca

I come from a really uptight family, where we just dont discuss our feelings, what is going on, how we might use it to learn and grow and I have been the odd woman out for years. It is so nice, so safe for me to have such a great group of friends who think speaking like this sharing stuff is normal.
Bring it on Steve!! More more!!!

Love to my children in Japan, Mom

Cheers, Steve